averyconfusingcouple:

I do not replace one pain and mark on my skin with another pain or mark on my skin.

If I have self harm impulses I try to deal with them positively rather than associating a different pain with those feelings.

I do use spankings to help with emotional build up but I do not use spankings as a replacement for self harm.

Emily xxx

A great advice to something I’ve thought a lot about lately. Dealing with depression and anxiety from time to time and the need for harming myself are not impossible to handle even when I do enjoy pain also sexually. The mindset and the reasons for my needs just have to be carefully analysed. The more I learn about D/s the more I appreciate and love it. And so far the community and the people I’ve interacted with have been nothing but great and supportive.