1.) I need the structure and rules in order to feel fulfilled.
2.) I need to have someone to care for and be valuable to
3.) I crave the intensity of D/s interactions
4.) The feeling of ownership makes me feel safe and free
5.) Having someone in my life who is willing to push my boundaries has made me a better person
6.) I need someone who craves me and wants me just as much as I do them and I have not found that in the vanilla world
7.) I need to be held accountable for my actions in a way that only a D/s relationship can provide
8.) I love having a person who will take me down dark paths of desire
9.) I have desires that require absolute trust in order to be fulfilled
10.) I crave that moment when I can finally let go and fully submit and my mind finally quiets
11.) Sometimes I just need the feelings of hands on my throat or buried in my hair and the whisper of “You are Mine” in my ear
12.) Pain is an incredible turn on and I have yet to meet a vanilla who understands why I want it
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Shutting down a scene
A PM from a Follower, abstracted in the interests of privacy …
“Awhile back you mentioned in passing a Dom shutting down a scene if it got too intense for the sub to be able to use her safe word responsibly. What are the symptoms, so I can watch out for it and be aware?”This is a great question. First, respect to you for wanting to understand and keep your girl safe. Here’s the thing: we hear all this stuff about “the sub is safe, because she always has her safeword.” And that is true, as far as it goes. But what happens when, in the intense heat of a scene, the submissive has lost the power of rational volition? That sounds fairly nebulous, and probably useless, so let me break it down to some characteristic external markers that I’ve encountered over the years …
Loss of rational speech. Is her speech mumbled, incoherent, and “off-topic”? You need to shut that shit down.
Irrational demands for “more, harder.” If you’ve pushed her to (and possibly a bit beyond) her previous limits and to a place that you know is beyond her tolerance (for pain, intensity, etc) and yet she continues to moan “more …. harder …” then she has dropped too deep into sub space to be a rational player in the scene, and you need to shut that shit down.
“What is your name?” If you think she’s slipped away, ask her “What is your name?” I once had to ask a girl her name three times before I got a mumbled response. If she can’t answer immediately and coherently, you need to shut that shit down.
Safeword. Above all else, if you ask “What is your safeword?” and she does not immediately respond crisply and coherently with her safeword, you need to shut that shit down at once.
Now, what do you do to bring her back? Hydration, a damp towel, under the covers, and a lot of cuddles and aftercare while talking to her softly and letting her know you’re there and all is well.
Hopefully these “indicators” will help you to keep your scenes Safe, Sane, and Consensual.
Thanks to my good friend @1-sadistic-lover for finding this. For the person who messaged me about this piece last night.
Gorgeous!
My favourite collar and my favourite tits, all as they are (an oldie). Just did some self-discipline or some maintenance spanking, don’t know the difference. Just needed the pain. So much. Because I’m worth it, I deserve it.
When Tumblr bans porn, who loses?
A former staff engineer, who recently left Tumblr and asked to remain
anonymous for professional reasons, tells Vox that the NSFW ban was “in
the works for about six months as an official project,” adding that it
was given additional resources and named “Project X” in September,
shortly before it was announced to the rest of the company at an
all-hands meeting. “[The NSFW ban] was going to happen anyway,” the
former engineer told me. “Verizon pushed it out the door after the child
pornography thing and made the deadline sooner,” but the real problem
was always that Verizon couldn’t sell ads next to porn.Porn on Tumblr is something Verizon needs to wipe out if it’s going to
make any money off what it thinks is actually valuable about the
platform — enormous fandom and social justice communities that, just
before the Verizon acquisition, Khalaf was insisting the staff figure
out how to better monetize.On that note-
Two former Tumblr employees said they were alarmed when Khalaf chose
Black Lives Matter as an example of a community that the company should
focus on converting into Yahoo media consumers. One told The Verge,
“Simon explicitly said that Black Lives Matter was an opportunity to
[make] a ton of money.”There is so much more to this article. They raise some very valid points about pornography on this site (and other) that I’ve never considered before.
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